Just for you sweetie,..

The other day you called me in a huff. You were on the verge of tears because he’d let you down again. So I picked you up and asked you to keep me company for a while, while I did all the things I needed to do that day.

I let you speak because you needed a sounding board. You spoke about how you felt. About what she’d said, about what he’d said, about how you felt, about what mum thought, about what your sister thought. I let you speak.

I listened to the way your lips trembled and how you pulled back the tears, the way you digressed. I listened to your heart break when you told me that he’d made another girl pregnant and how you just couldn’t understand it.

I remembered how not too long I said to you that everyone goes through rough patches and the trick is in both of you being committed to work through it. Well baby girl, you were and he wasn’t.

Hali ya maisha au sio?

Cest la vie!

I had a friend say that to me recently while I cried and I laughed so hard, the peace that I hadn’t felt in a while was restored. That’s always been my favourite phrase. And he simply reminded me what I always knew.

If I said that all that matters in this world was you darling, I would be lying and calling myself a hypocrite. There’s more to life.

There’s a song I particularly like by –

“There’s got to be more to life, than chasing down every temporary high, to satisfy me.”

And there is.

Sweetie, I know right now it seems hard. It doesn’t just seem hard, it is hard from where you’re standing but baby girl the calm is right around the corner. Hold on, by the very skin of your nails.

And when you feel you can’t do it, we shall rally around you. EVERY SINGLE ONE OF US! We shall hold on to you and you shall make it through the storm.

I’m not going to tell you not to be miserable. I’ll tell you to enjoy the misery J

I realize that is sort of an equivalent of a masochistic statement but girlfriend! The harder you fall, the higher you rise! J